In the End
A farm kid a century ago would have had a closer relationship with death than I do, though I’m less of a stranger than most.
But watching some stranger’s light (literally) fade out of them over infrared from thousands of feet up and thousands of miles away is different than this memory of touch, of trust.
Everything I could say feels so cliche, disjointed. No emergency here, just a critter. My critter. My puppy.
I’ve been told it’s not correct to compare my pain to others. But so many have lost so much this last year. It has been a year of death, across the world. And yet in all of that, I’ve been so lightly touched. Lucky, privileged. No sidewalk tents and watching the traffic for me, no phone calls with dying loved ones I can’t see, just some measure of isolation. The background threat of constant elevated cortisol, the navigation of my social relationships with people of differing values. And this one isolated tragedy, so personal, so intense in a world so much bigger than me.
I vacuumed my bedroom this morning. It had been awhile. There was still fur in the corners, under the bed.
Detritus left behind, callously disposed of.
This is how we hurt.
This is how we human.